There’s a reason the phrase “for better or for worse” is part of the wedding vows. Every marriage will occasionally encounter situations that fall under the “worse” category. According to author Louisa Rogers, the keys to surviving these moments – and ultimately strengthening the relationship – are action and communication. She helps readers discover actions they can undertake individually, such as experimenting for results and reflecting on what’s working well now; and she offers new ways of communicating that avoid pitfalls like criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling. “When you face any important decision in your marriage, don’t just think in terms of whether it’s good for you or good for your spouse,” writes Rogers. “Instead, look at the bigger picture, and ask whether it will feed and nourish your marriage.”

By Louisa Rogers