By Judith Courtney, M.P.S., M.A., L.P.C. Since grief is such a painful but necessary part of the healing process, it is important to allow it to occur at its own pace. However, there are coping skills to work your way through. With a great deal of insight based on personal experience and training, author Judith E. Courtney offers 12 tools to help you heal. Expect the unexpected, be aware of unacknowledged loss, and use your grief as a means to personal and spiritual growth.